Understanding the Constant “On-Edge” Feeling
1. Your Brain’s Alarm System is Overactive
- Small mistakes or daily stressors
- Uncertainty about the future
- Physical fatigue or overwhelm
2. A Nervous System That Hasn’t Settled
Instead of moving easily between being active and resting, it can get stuck in a constant ‘on’ mode
3. Often Overlooked Contributors
- Mental overload: Having too many decisions or responsibilities can make you feel more pressure inside.
- Physical depletion: Not getting enough sleep, food, or rest can make anxious feelings stronger.
- Need for certainty: Worrying about or trying to control the future can lead to overthinking, which frequently manifests as relationship anxiety when we feel uncertain about our connections with others.
- Unprocessed emotions: Sometimes, anxiety covers up deeper feelings like sadness, anger, or grief.
How to Begin Calming the System
- Name what you’re feeling: Gently saying to yourself, “I feel anxious right now,” can help you step back from the intensity.
- Check your basics: Getting enough rest, eating well, and moving your body can really help.
- Slow your breathing: Taking longer exhales can tell your body it’s okay to relax.
From the team at Insightful Counselling
Resources & Further Reading
If you’re interested in the science behind how your mind and body handle stress, here are a few foundational resources:
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The Polyvagal Theory: Dr. Stephen Porges’ work on how our nervous system scans for safety and danger.
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The Window of Tolerance: A guide by Dr. Dan Siegel on understanding your emotional “optimal zone.”
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Name it to Tame it: Insights from Dr. Matthew Lieberman on how labeling emotions calms the brain’s alarm system.
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Managing Your “Body Budget”: Neuroscientist Lisa Feldman Barrett explains how physical health directly impacts your emotional state.
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Understanding GAD: Clinical resources and support from the Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA).
