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Healing Childhood Trauma for Adults in Singapore

Imagine you’re catching up with an old friend. You start talking about your childhood, and it hits you—some experiences were more than just unpleasant. They left scars. Whether it’s the little things like constant criticism (small “t” traumas) or bigger, more distressing experiences like sexual abuse (big “T” traumas), these events can shape who we are as adults. At Insightful Counselling, we’re here to help you untangle these memories and find healing.

What Exactly is Childhood Trauma?

Childhood trauma isn’t just about the big, obvious things. It’s also about the subtle, everyday moments that can make a lasting impact. Let’s break it down with some examples:

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Examples of small “t” traumas:

Being belittled or constantly criticized

Example: Growing up, Sarah was often told by her parents that she wasn’t smart enough or good enough at school. These constant criticisms made her feel inadequate and affected her self-esteem well into adulthood.

Feeling neglected or ignored

Example: John’s parents were always busy with work, leaving him feeling neglected. He often had to fend for himself and felt that his needs and feelings were unimportant, leading to issues with trust and attachment in his adult relationships.

Being compared unfavourably to siblings or peers

Example: Emma was frequently compared to her older brother, who excelled in sports and academics. This made her feel inferior and unworthy, creating a lasting belief that she could never measure up.

Examples of big “T” traumas:

Physical or emotional abuse

Example: Mark experienced physical abuse from a family member throughout his childhood. The trauma from these experiences led to severe anxiety and difficulty in forming healthy relationships.

Sexual abuse

Example: Lisa was sexually abused by a trusted family friend when she was young. This left her with deep emotional scars, resulting in depression and a pervasive sense of shame and guilt.

Witnessing domestic violence

Example: Alex grew up in a household where domestic violence was a regular occurrence. Witnessing the abuse of a loved one instilled a constant state of fear and hypervigilance, affecting his ability to feel safe and secure.

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These experiences can lead to long-lasting effects, such as anxiety, depression, and difficulties in forming healthy relationships. The good news is, it’s never too late to address and heal from these traumas.

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At Insightful Counselling, we’re committed to helping you heal from the wounds of your past. Whether you’re dealing with small “t” traumas or big “T” traumas, our experienced therapists in Singapore are here to guide you every step of the way. Reach out to us today and start your journey towards a brighter, healthier future.

Benefits of Trauma Therapy for Adult Survivors
Emotional and Psychological Healing After Trauma Counselling

Emotional and Psychological Healing

Therapy helps process and release the pain of past traumas, leading to emotional relief. When you carry the burden of unresolved childhood trauma, it can manifest in various ways, such as anxiety, depression, or a constant feeling of being on edge. Through therapy, you can confront these painful memories in a safe and supportive environment, allowing you to release the pent-up emotions associated with them.


Sarah, who had been constantly criticized by her parents, felt a deep sense of inadequacy and anxiety in her adult life. Through EMDR therapy, she was able to revisit those painful moments and process them in a way that reduced their emotional impact. This led to a significant decrease in her anxiety and an overall sense of emotional relief.

Developing Positive Beliefs and Self-Worth

Addressing and changing negative beliefs helps build a stronger sense of self-worth. Many adult survivors of childhood trauma carry with them harmful beliefs instilled during their early years, such as “I am not good enough” or “I am not important.” Therapy helps in identifying these negative self-perceptions and working towards replacing them with positive affirmations and beliefs.


John grew up feeling neglected and unimportant because his parents were always too busy to pay attention to him. In therapy, he worked through these feelings and began to understand that his parents’ neglect was not a reflection of his worth. Using Transactional Analysis, John started to reframe his self-beliefs, ultimately building a healthier self-image and a stronger sense of self-worth.

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Improved Relationships

Healing from trauma can enhance your ability to form and maintain healthy relationships. Unresolved trauma can create barriers to forming close connections with others, often resulting in trust issues, fear of intimacy, or difficulty in communicating emotions. Through therapy, you can learn to navigate these barriers, improving your relational skills and fostering deeper, more meaningful connections.


Emma had witnessed domestic violence as a child, which made her wary of close relationships and fearful of conflict. In therapy, she practiced role plays and Gestalt two-chair work to safely explore and express her emotions. This practice helped Emma build healthier communication skills and trust, allowing her to form more secure and fulfilling relationships with her partner and friends.

How to Recognize If You Have Childhood Trauma

Recognizing childhood trauma in yourself can be challenging, especially if the experiences were subtle or normalized in your upbringing. However, certain signs and patterns can indicate unresolved trauma from your childhood. Here are some key indicators:

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Emotional Symptoms

Persistent Anxiety or Depression:

  • You might feel a constant state of anxiety or bouts of depression that seem unconnected to your current life circumstances.

Unexplained Anger or Irritability:

  • You may find yourself getting angry or irritable over small things, often feeling out of control with your emotions.

Feeling Overwhelmed or Easily Triggered:

  • Situations that remind you of your past can make you feel overwhelmed, even if the current context is safe.
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Behavioural Signs

Difficulty Trusting Others:

  • Trust issues may manifest as a reluctance to get close to others or a constant fear that people will hurt or abandon you.

Avoidance of Certain Situations or People:

  • You might avoid specific places, people, or situations that remind you of past trauma.

Compulsive Behaviours’:

  • Engaging in behaviours like overeating, substance abuse, or overworking to numb or distract yourself from painful memories.

Cognitive Indicators

Negative Self-Beliefs:

  • Holding onto beliefs like “I am not good enough” or “I am unlovable” can stem from childhood experiences.

Intrusive Thoughts or Flashbacks:

  • You may experience unwanted memories or flashbacks of traumatic events from your childhood.
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Physical Symptoms

Chronic Pain or Health Issues:

  • Unexplained chronic pain, fatigue, or other health issues can sometimes be linked to unresolved emotional trauma.

Sleep Disturbances:

  • Trouble falling asleep, staying asleep, or having frequent nightmares can indicate underlying trauma.
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Relational Challenges

Struggles with Intimacy:

  • Difficulty forming or maintaining close relationships, or feeling disconnected even in intimate relationships.

Recurrent Relationship Patterns:

  • Finding yourself in repeated unhealthy relationships, whether it’s with friends, partners, or colleagues.

Recognizing these signs in yourself is the first step toward healing. At Insightful Counselling, we can help you address and resolve these issues, providing a path to a healthier and more fulfilling life.

Think you might have unresolved childhood trauma? Reach out to us today!

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Why Choose Insightful Counselling in Singapore?

  • Experienced Therapists Specialized in Trauma: Our therapists, like Reena Goenka with over 14 years of experience, have extensive training in trauma therapy and have helped numerous clients heal.
  • Personalized and Compassionate Approach: We create a safe and supportive environment by tailoring our methods, such as EMDR therapy or Gestalt two-chair work, to your specific needs.
  • Proven Success Stories: Many clients have successfully overcome their traumas, like John who said, “Insightful Counselling helped me rediscover myself and build a life free from the shadows of my past.”


Healing from childhood trauma might take some time, but the results are worth it. Once you’ve worked through the process, you’ll notice the positive changes you’ve always wanted.

Ready to start your healing journey?

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Our Counsellors for Childhood Trauma Counselling

Reena Goenka

Reena Goenka, SAC Certified Counsellor & Clinical Supervisior

– Specializes in trauma therapy.

– She is a certified EMDR therapist and Brainspotting therapist

– She is a certified Transactional Analyst

– Over 15 years of experience helping clients heal from trauma and CPTSD.

– Known for her compassionate and empathetic approach.

Yap Huay Khem

Huay Khem - Counsellor at Insightful Counselling SingaporeYap Huay Khem, MSc (Counseling), SAC Registered Clinical Counsellor
Known for her calm and nonjudgmental demeanour, Yap Huay Khem uses EMDR/Flash Technique, Brainspotting and Hypnotherapy to help clients explore and aware of their childhood trauma and help them resolve their trapped emotions and thus improve their well-being and handling behaviours.

Case study by Insightful Counselling Childhood Trauma Counselling - Singapore

Case Study: Healing Childhood Trauma for an Expat in Singapore


A client, whom we’ll call Sarah for privacy, sought counselling at Insightful Counselling due to overwhelming anxiety and a persistent belief that she was not good enough at work. Her anxiety was triggered whenever she couldn’t produce a perfect report, leading to significant stress and self-doubt.

Early Life Influences

Through our initial sessions, it became evident that Sarah’s issues stemmed from her childhood. She revealed that her father had been extremely strict, expecting nothing less than perfection from her, especially in her studies. Punishments were frequent if she made mistakes, reinforcing her belief that she needed to be perfect. This was compounded by constant comparisons to her younger brother, who was often seen as more capable and talented.

Therapeutic Approach

Transactional Analysis (TA): We started with Transactional Analysis to uncover and understand Sarah’s deep-seated fears and negative beliefs about herself. Through TA, Sarah realized that her belief of “I am not good enough” originated from her childhood experiences of being constantly compared to her brother and striving for perfection to gain her father’s approval.

Gestalt Therapy – Two-Chair Work: To address her belief of “I need to be perfect,” we used Gestalt Therapy’s two-chair technique. Sarah had a dialogue between her critical self, which demanded perfection, and her true self, which wanted acceptance and understanding. This process helped her recognize and challenge the unrealistic expectations she had placed on herself.

Inviting Her Mother (Gestalt Therapy): We also incorporated role-playing by inviting her to imagine a conversation with her mother. This allowed Sarah to gain perspective on her mother’s views and feelings, fostering a deeper understanding of her family dynamics and their impact on her beliefs.

EMDR Therapy (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing): To address specific traumatic memories, such as the anxiety-inducing sessions in her father’s study, we used EMDR therapy. This method helped Sarah reprocess these memories, reducing their emotional charge and enabling her to view them more objectively.


Over the course of two years, Sarah made significant progress. She learned to challenge and change her negative beliefs, reducing her anxiety and building her self-esteem. She no longer felt the need to be perfect and could accept her imperfections without harsh self-criticism.

Sarah’s personal life also flourished. She found a partner with whom she shared a loving and supportive relationship. She felt empowered to express her viewpoints confidently while maintaining empathy for others.

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This case study illustrates the comprehensive and personalized approach we take at Insightful Counselling to help clients heal from childhood trauma and build fulfilling lives. If you see yourself in Sarah’s story, we are here to help you too.

Frequently Asked Questions

What is childhood trauma, and how does it affect adults?

Childhood trauma includes distressing experiences during childhood, such as emotional neglect, belittlement, or abuse. These experiences can lead to long-lasting emotional and psychological effects, including anxiety, depression, and difficulties in forming healthy relationships.

How can therapy help adult survivors of childhood trauma?

Therapy helps by addressing and resolving negative beliefs, emotional wounds, and patterns established during childhood. It promotes healing, personal growth, and improved mental health.

What therapeutic approaches does Insightful Counselling use?

We use various therapeutic approaches, including Transactional Analysis, EMDR therapy, Brainspotting therapy, Gestalt two-chair work, and flash techniques, tailored to each client’s unique needs.

What is Transactional Analysis, and how does it help?

Transactional Analysis is a therapeutic approach that helps individuals understand and change negative patterns and beliefs developed in childhood. It promotes healthier relationships and self-perception.

Can EMDR therapy help with childhood trauma?

Yes, EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) therapy is effective in processing and healing deep-seated trauma. It helps desensitize and reprocess traumatic memories, reducing their emotional impact.

What is Brainspotting therapy?

Brainspotting is a focused treatment method that identifies, processes, and releases core neurophysiological sources of emotional pain, trauma, and other challenging symptoms. It helps access and heal deep brain structures where trauma is stored.

How does Gestalt two-chair work benefit trauma survivors?

Gestalt two-chair work facilitates emotional resolution by allowing individuals to express and integrate conflicting feelings and thoughts. It helps in resolving inner conflicts and promoting emotional healing.

What are flash techniques and role plays in trauma therapy?

Flash techniques help reduce the intensity of traumatic memories quickly. Role plays allow individuals to practice new behaviors and responses in a safe environment, aiding in the development of healthier coping mechanisms.

Why should I choose Insightful Counselling for trauma therapy in Singapore?

Insightful Counselling offers experienced therapists, a personalized approach, and a supportive environment to help adult survivors of childhood trauma heal and thrive. We have a proven track record of success in helping clients overcome their past traumas and improve their quality of life.

How long does therapy for childhood trauma typically take?

The duration of therapy varies based on individual needs and the severity of the trauma. Some clients may see significant improvement in a few months, while others may require longer-term therapy to fully heal and develop healthy coping mechanisms.

If you have any more questions or are ready to begin your healing journey, Contact us today!


I came to Reena when I experienced motherhood anxiety and had feelings of not being a good mother. Thank you, Reena, for helping me fly as a mother. I can positively say, 'I am the best mother! :)' You helped me recognize my past patterns with Transactional Analysis, especially with the regular messages I received from my parents, problems that had built up over time. A key benefit of my therapy sessions with Reena was understanding why I felt the way I felt and how I related to people. I made a decision to be different with my child, and it worked!!! Once again, a big thank you, Reena.

Huay Khem has been a remarkable support throughout my journey with childhood trauma. She has consistently provided a safe and understanding environment where I can openly discuss my issues without fear of judgment. Her empathy and non-judgmental approach have given me the space to be myself, which has been incredibly healing.

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