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Couple Therapy in Singapore

Welcome to Insightful Counselling, where we offer compassionate and professional couples counselling in Singapore. Whether you’re facing communication breakdowns, trust issues, or a loss of intimacy, our experienced therapists are here to help you rebuild and strengthen your relationship.

Remember when looking into each other’s eyes made you feel butterflies? When you committed, believing that feeling would last forever? Back then, you were so connected, talking for hours, making each other laugh, and even finishing each other’s sentences. Your communication was seamless.

Now, you want that relationship back.

Imagine rekindling that connection, enhanced by years of shared experiences, deeper understanding, and renewed intimacy. At Insightful Counselling, Singapore, we help you rediscover and strengthen your bond, making your relationship more resilient and fulfilling than ever.

You love each other, but something feels off. You’re here because you likely recognise the need for help and are ready to start your journey towards a better relationship. We hope this information helps you decide if Insightful Counselling suits you.

Strains in long-term relationships can be overwhelming, impacting every part of your life. At Insightful Counselling, we work with committed couples to restore safety, security, pleasure, and joy in their relationships.

Many of the couples we work with are high-performing professionals. They strive to balance career and family, often at the expense of their intimacy and downtime. Communication breakdowns are common, but we are here to help you reconnect and revitalise your relationship.

What Is Couples Counselling?

Couples counselling is a talking therapy alongside modalities like the Gottman Method, Transactional Analysis, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, etc, that helps identify and change negative behaviours, improving your relationship. It aims to help you understand and alter harmful patterns within your relationship. Counselling provides new tools, ideas, and perspectives to help get your relationship back on track, fostering a more warm and loving connection. A couples counsellor can help monitor progress, mediate conflicts, and provide objective feedback, guiding you towards a healthier relationship.

Couples Counselling can help to:

– Resolve Conflicts: Help to resolve arguing and unhealthy dynamics.

– Restore Intimacy: Address the loss of sexual contact or intimacy.

– Manage Crisis: Work through acute crises or unexpected conflicts.

Amicable Separation: Assist couples who have decided to end their relationship to do so on good terms.

What Common Issues Can Couples Counselling Address?
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Couples Counselling can help address a wide range of issues in a relationship. Here are some common problems that can be effectively managed through therapy:

  1. Communication Problems:
  • Differences in communication styles.
  • Lack of open and honest dialogue.
  • Misunderstandings and constant arguments.
  1. Trust Issues:
  • Infidelity or betrayal.
  • Suspicion and jealousy.
  • Difficulties rebuilding trust.
  1. Emotional Disconnection:
  • Feeling distant or emotionally withdrawn.
  • Loss of intimacy and connection.
  • Difficulty expressing feelings and emotions.
  1. Life Changes and Stress:
  • Dealing with significant life events like moving, job changes, or having children.
  • Managing stress from external factors impacting the relationship.
  • Adapting to new roles and responsibilities.
  1. Financial Conflicts:
  • Disagreements about spending and saving.
  • Differences in financial priorities.
  • Stress related to financial instability.
  1. Parenting Differences:
  • Conflicting parenting styles.
  • Disagreements on child-rearing practices.
  • Balancing parenting responsibilities.
  1. Sexual and Intimacy Issues:
  • Mismatched sexual desires.
  • Lack of physical intimacy.
  • Sexual dissatisfaction or dysfunction.
  1. Family and In-Law Tensions:
  • Conflicts with extended family members.
  • Boundaries with in-laws.
  • Managing family expectations and obligations.
  1. Unresolved Past Issues:
  • Lingering resentment from past conflicts.
  • Unaddressed grievances.
  • Emotional baggage affecting the present relationship.
  1. Fear and Anxiety:
  • Fear of commitment or settling down.
  • Anxiety about the future of the relationship.
  • Worries about significant life changes.

Counselling for couples provides a safe and supportive environment where couples can discuss these issues, understand each other’s perspectives, and develop healthy ways to cope and resolve conflicts. Insightful Counselling guides you through this process, helping you build a stronger, more fulfilling relationship.

What are the Benefits of Couples Counselling?
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Couples counselling offers numerous advantages, helping partners strengthen their relationship and resolve conflicts. Here are some key benefits:

  1. The Therapist as a Facilitator:

One significant benefit of couples counselling is the therapist’s role as a facilitator. A therapist provides both partners with a neutral, supportive environment in which they can express themselves freely. They guide the conversation, ensuring both voices are heard and helping navigate complex topics constructively. This facilitative role is crucial for identifying underlying issues and fostering productive dialogue, ultimately leading to a stronger, healthier relationship.

  1. Enhanced Communication:

Counselling helps you and your partner improve communication, fostering more transparent and effective dialogue.

  1. Safe Environment for Resolution:

Therapy does not involve judgment or escalation, so issues can be identified and addressed without fear of judgment.

  1. Understanding Needs:

You’ll learn to hear and understand each other’s needs without resentment or anger, leading to a more compassionate relationship.

  1. Feeling Valued:

Counselling can help you feel more valued and connected to your partner, deepening your emotional bond.

  1. Renewed Intimacy:

Both physical and emotional intimacy can be revitalised through counselling, rekindling your relationship.

  1. Present and  Future Focused:

Therapy encourages moving past old grievances and focusing on a brighter present and future together.

  1. Better Understanding:

You’ll better understand both your and your partner’s needs, promoting mutual respect and empathy.

  1. Relationship Clarity:

Counselling can help you determine whether to continue within your relationship or marriage, providing clarity and direction.

These benefits highlight how Couples Counselling can foster a healthier, more fulfilling relationship, addressing both immediate issues and long-term goals.

How Does the Couples Counselling Process Work?

There is usually an initial assessment, a goal-setting process, and regular therapy sessions. Couples identify problems and develop solutions together with their therapist.

– Initial Assessment: Identify the key issues and set goals.

– Regular Sessions: Weekly or bi-weekly meetings to work through problems.

– Progress Evaluation: Monitoring improvements and adjusting strategies as needed.

What Techniques Are Used in Couples Therapy?

Various therapeutic techniques are employed to address different aspects of relationship issues:

– Gottman Method: Based on decades of research, this method focuses on building relationship skills, managing conflict, and fostering intimacy. It involves practical exercises to strengthen communication and emotional connection.

Transactional Analysis (TA) examines interactions to understand communication patterns and improve relationship dynamics. TA helps couples identify and change negative behaviours and enhance mutual understanding.

Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy (CBT): Helps reframe negative thoughts and develop healthier thinking patterns.

Talk Therapy provides a safe space for open communication, allowing couples to explore their feelings, resolve conflicts, and improve their relationships.

– Mindfulness Exercises: Promotes awareness and presence in the relationship, helping partners stay grounded and connected.

These techniques are tailored to meet each couple’s unique needs, promoting healthier and more fulfilling relationships. Aim to improve communication, resolve conflicts, and build stronger emotional bonds.

What is the Success Rate of Marriage Counselling?

Couple counselling is highly effective for couples looking to resolve relationship issues. According to the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, an estimated 70-90% of couples experience improvement in their relationship after counselling. Prioritising a healthy marital relationship is vital as it influences emotional, physical, and mental well-being. At Insightful Counselling, our professional, licensed marriage counsellors are ready to help you strengthen your marriage and achieve lasting positive changes.

How do you get started with Couples Counselling at Insightful Counselling?

Starting couples counselling is simple. Contact Insightful Counselling to schedule an initial assessment and begin your journey towards a healthier, happier relationship.

– Contact Us: Reach out to schedule an appointment.

– Initial Assessment: Discuss your issues and goals with a therapist.

– Begin Therapy: Start working on improving your relationship with professional guidance.

What Should You Expect from a Couples Therapy Session?

A typical session involves discussing issues, exploring emotions, and working on practical solutions. Therapists guide couples through exercises and strategies to improve their relationship.

– Discussion of Issues: Openly talking about problems and concerns.

– Emotion Exploration: Understanding each other’s feelings and perspectives.

– Practical Exercises: Working on techniques to improve communication and resolve conflicts.

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How Can Counselling Help with Infidelity Recovery?

Counselling provides a supportive environment to address the pain and betrayal caused by infidelity. It helps couples rebuild trust and move forward.

– Rebuilding Trust: Developing transparency and honesty.

– Emotional Healing: Processing feelings of hurt and betrayal.

– Strengthening the Relationship: Focusing on positive changes and future goals.

What Is the Role of Conflict Resolution in Couples Therapy?

Conflict resolution is crucial for maintaining a healthy relationship. Therapy provides tools to manage disagreements without damaging the relationship.

– Identifying Triggers: Recognising what causes conflicts.

– Developing Solutions: Creating strategies to resolve disagreements.

– Maintaining Respect: Ensuring both partners feel heard and valued.

How Can Therapy Improve Intimacy and Connection in a Relationship?

Therapy helps couples enhance their emotional and physical intimacy by addressing underlying issues and improving communication.

– Building Emotional Connection: Strengthening the bond through open communication.

– Enhancing Physical Intimacy: Exploring ways to improve physical closeness.

– Addressing Barriers: Identifying and resolving issues that hinder intimacy.

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Why Choose Insightful Counselling for Couples Therapy in Singapore?

Insightful Counselling Singapore offers personalised therapy tailored to each couple’s unique needs. Our experienced therapists use evidence-based techniques, such as the Gottman Method, Transactional Analysis, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, Talk Therapy, and more, to support and guide you.

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Understanding comes with love and respect between the couple, it is something that cannot be taught. But with Insightful you will understand the need of understanding. With regular sessions you will witness

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Meet Our Couple Counseling Experts

Reena Goenka

Reena Goenka, MSc (Counselling), SAC Master Clinical Member: With over 15 years of experience, Reena specialises in using Transactional Analysis to enhance self-awareness and understand relationship dynamics in premarital counselling. Her approach helps couples explore and improve their communication and connection before and after marriage.

Adeeti Jain

Adeeti Jain - Counsellor at Insightful Counselling Singapore

Adeeti Jain, MSc (Counselling), SAC Associate Member:

Adeeti brings a wealth of knowledge and experience. She utilises the Gottman Method for premarital counselling and excels at helping couples understand and manage emotional and behavioural challenges.

Yap Huay Khem

Huay Khem - Counsellor at Insightful Counselling SingaporeYap Huay Khem, MSc (Counseling), SAC Registered Clinical Counsellor
Known for her calm and nonjudgmental demeanour, Yap Huay Khem uses Transactional Analysis to help couples explore and improve their relationship dynamics, fostering a safe and open environment.

Lily Ng

Lily Ng, MSc (Counselling), SAC Associate Member: Lily provides a supportive and nurturing environment for couples, using Transactional Analysis to help them build resilience and develop healthy coping strategies while understanding relationship issues.

Case Studies: Exploring Values and Beliefs in Couple Counselling

Detailed Case Study: Tom and Erica’s Journey with Transactional Analysis (not their real names) are used here to maintain confidentiality.

Tom and Erica came to Insightful Counselling because they were having everyday arguments and clashes over values and beliefs, particularly regarding work, cleaning, kitchen work, punctuality, and their sexual life. Many of their conflicts were filled with “shoulds,” leading to frustration and misunderstandings.

Key Issues Identified:

– Tom’s Dissatisfactions: Erica’s approach to her work and household chores, her expectations around kitchen work, and differences in punctuality.

– Erica’s Dissatisfactions: Tom’s attitudes towards cleanliness, his approach to time management, and issues in their sexual relationship.

Therapy Focus:

The therapy was centred around Transactional Analysis, which involved:

Understanding Values and Beliefs: Helping both partners recognise the underlying values and beliefs driving their behaviours.

– Ego State Awareness: Identifying the ego states (Parent, Adult, Child) from which they communicated.

– Creating Awareness: Fostering a better understanding of each other’s needs and how to express them constructively.

– Improving Communication: Developing strategies to enhance their communication and reduce conflicts.

Progress Achieved:

– Communication from the Fun Child: They learned to communicate from the Fun Child ego state, enhancing their ability to enjoy fun and intimate times together.

– Nurturing Parent Voice: Their Parent voice started to be more of a Nurturing Parent rather than a Critical Parent, offering support rather than criticism.

Increased Understanding: More frequent and meaningful conversations helped them understand each other better and align their expectations.

Communicate from the Adult Ego State: This allowed them to discuss their needs and expectations without resorting to criticism or defensiveness.

Ability to address conflicts—Any relationship cannot be without conflicts. The couple learned to respect and address these.

Over time, Tom and Erica learned to communicate more effectively, enjoy their time together, and support each other in a nurturing way. Their relationship significantly improved, with fewer arguments and a deeper emotional connection.

Case Studies: Exploring Values and Beliefs in Couple Counselling

Detailed Case Study: Tom and Erica’s Journey with Transactional Analysis (not their real names) are used here to maintain confidentiality.

Tom and Erica came to Insightful Counselling because they were having everyday arguments and clashes over values and beliefs, particularly regarding work, cleaning, kitchen work, punctuality, and their sexual life. Many of their conflicts were filled with “shoulds,” leading to frustration and misunderstandings.

Key Issues Identified:

– Tom’s Dissatisfactions: Erica’s approach to her work and household chores, her expectations around kitchen work, and differences in punctuality.

– Erica’s Dissatisfactions: Tom’s attitudes towards cleanliness, his approach to time management, and issues in their sexual relationship.

Therapy Focus:

The therapy was centred around Transactional Analysis, which involved:

Understanding Values and Beliefs: Helping both partners recognise the underlying values and beliefs driving their behaviours.

– Ego State Awareness: Identifying the ego states (Parent, Adult, Child) from which they communicated.

– Creating Awareness: Fostering a better understanding of each other’s needs and how to express them constructively.

– Improving Communication: Developing strategies to enhance their communication and reduce conflicts.

Progress Achieved:

– Communication from the Fun Child: They learned to communicate from the Fun Child ego state, enhancing their ability to enjoy fun and intimate times together.

– Nurturing Parent Voice: Their Parent voice started to be more of a Nurturing Parent rather than a Critical Parent, offering support rather than criticism.

Increased Understanding: More frequent and meaningful conversations helped them understand each other better and align their expectations.

Communicate from the Adult Ego State: This allowed them to discuss their needs and expectations without resorting to criticism or defensiveness.

Ability to address conflicts—Any relationship cannot be without conflicts. The couple learned to respect and address these.

Over time, Tom and Erica learned to communicate more effectively, enjoy their time together, and support each other in a nurturing way. Their relationship significantly improved, with fewer arguments and a deeper emotional connection.

Frequently Asked Questions

How long do couples counselling typically take?

The duration of couples counselling varies, but many couples start to see improvements within a few months. The length of therapy depends on the complexity of the issues being addressed and the goals set by the couple.

Can couples counselling help if only one partner is willing to attend?

Ideally, both partners should attend, but individual sessions can still provide valuable insights and strategies. A single partner’s participation can initiate positive changes that encourage the other to join later.

What should we bring to our first couples counselling session?

It’s helpful to bring a willingness to communicate openly and a list of specific issues or goals. Being prepared to discuss your relationship dynamics can facilitate a more productive session.

How often should we attend couples counselling sessions?

If you’re experiencing recurring conflicts, communication breakdowns, or a lack of intimacy, couples counselling can help. It provides tools and strategies to improve your relationship dynamics.

We’ve been living like this for so long. How can there still be hope for us?

Even if you’ve been struggling for years, couples counselling can help. Research shows that many couples wait too long to seek help. Still, effective therapy techniques can bring positive changes, improving communication and connection.

What if we’ve hurt each other so much that it feels irreparable?

Many couples feel this way when starting therapy. However, with professional guidance, it’s possible to break negative patterns and begin healing. Counselling helps change these patterns and resolve issues, even when they feel hopeless.

How long will it take for us to get along better?

Improvement varies by couple, but many see progress after a few sessions. Typically, arguments decrease, and communication improves early in therapy. The duration depends on your specific goals and issues.

How can I tell if you are the right therapist for us?

Reading about our approach and scheduling a consultation can help determine if we’re a good fit. It’s important to feel comfortable and safe with your therapist to explore and resolve your relationship issues effectively.

What if we know we want to separate or divorce and want help with the process?

Counselling can help clarify your goals and navigate the separation process amicably. Therapists can also refer you to specialists in collaborative divorce and support for children of divorce.

Relationships can indeed be challenging, with ups and downs along the way. Life circumstances, work commitments, family responsibilities, and social media can impact how you and your partner interact. When couples decide to live together, get married, or have children, these new demands can strain the relationship further.

However, even if your relationship has lost its intimacy or you’re arguing more than ever, it doesn’t mean it’s beyond saving. Remember, you chose your partner for a reason. Building a solid relationship requires time, effort, and sometimes professional help.

If you’re experiencing difficulties, try resolving issues on your own first. If that’s not working, seeking professional help through couples therapy can be beneficial. This type of therapy, once known as marriage counselling, is suitable for any relationship, regardless of marital status, age, or gender.

Testimonials

Over the last 1.5 years I have been working with Adeeti either in a 1:1 capacity or for couples counselling. The sessions have been invaluable. Adeeti's has helped my husband and I better communicate, learn how to turn towards each other as opposed to creating situations where we turn away from one another and most importantly she is teaching us how to have healthy conflict and carefully coaches us on the language we can use and the impact our actions can have on one another. Both my husband and I have found the sessions to be insightful, helpful and strengthen our love maps with each other. Would highly recommend couples counselling or 1:1 sessions with Adeeti!

Lily is an insightful and patient counsellor. Patient enough to listen to my troubles and not judge. Counselling by and large is not instantaneous, it really helps when professionals have the will to tough it out, and intervene at the right time.

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