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At our counseling center, we understand the challenges faced by couples. Whether it’s communication breakdowns, trust issues, or a loss of intimacy, our experienced therapists are here to guide you. We offer both in-person and online counseling services, ensuring accessibility and anonymity.

Every relationship faces challenges, and understanding how to manage these conflicts can not only mend existing problems but also significantly fortify your bond.

Whether the issue at hand seems minor or major, many couples benefit from guidance to traverse the complexities of their relationship. This is the essence of marriage counselling. It provides a neutral party to facilitate better communication, foster understanding from both perspectives, and assist in overcoming any obstacles. Moreover, marriage counselling equips you with the skills to establish boundaries and devise strategies for effectively handling conflict when it occurs.

What is Marriage Counselling?
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Marriage counselling, offered by our experienced therapists, assists couples in navigating challenges and enhancing their relationships in a safe and supportive environment. Through compassionate guidance and evidence-based techniques, we help couples address communication issues, rebuild trust, navigate conflicts, and rediscover intimacy. Our personalized approach focuses on understanding each couple’s unique dynamics and goals, empowering them to cultivate deeper connections and create a more fulfilling partnership. Whether you’re facing specific issues or simply seeking to strengthen your bond, our marriage counselling services offer a pathway towards greater understanding, resilience, and lasting happiness in your relationship.

What are Common Issues a Married Couple Face?
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Marriage, a delicate dance of hearts entwined, often encounters challenges that test the very fabric of love. Let’s explore some of these common issues faced by married couples and consider ways to navigate them:

– Infidelity: The spectre of infidelity looms over many relationships. Infidelity takes various forms, including emotional affairs, one-night stands, and long-term liaisons. To combat this, focus on maintaining a strong emotional bond, nurturing sexual intimacy, and respecting boundaries.

– Sexual Differences: Physical intimacy is both essential and complex. Sexual problems can arise due to various reasons, affecting overall relationship satisfaction. Prioritize sexual compatibility and satisfaction, as they play a pivotal role in long-term happiness1.

– Lack of Communication: One of the most common issues in marriages is poor communication. Couples sometimes avoid discussing problems, allowing resentments to fester. Open dialogue, active listening, and addressing issues promptly can strengthen your connection.

– Financial Strains: Money matters can strain even the strongest bonds. Differing financial habits, debts, and budgeting challenges can lead to tension. Create a shared financial plan, communicate openly about money, and work together to achieve financial stability.

– Parenting Disagreements: Raising children brings immense joy but also introduces new complexities. Differing parenting styles, discipline approaches, and time management can cause friction. Regularly discuss parenting strategies and find common ground.

– Emotional Distance: Over time, couples may drift apart emotionally. Busy lives, work pressures, and daily routines can erode intimacy. Prioritize quality time together, express affection, and actively nurture emotional closeness.

How Does Marriage Counselling Benefit You?

Marriage counselling, often seen as a proactive and remedial approach to addressing marital issues, offers numerous benefits that can significantly enhance the quality and resilience of a relationship. Here are some of the key advantages of engaging in marriage counseling:

– Improved Communication: Learn practical communication skills to express your needs, listen actively, and resolve conflicts constructively.

– Rebuilding Trust: Addressing trust issues involves rebuilding broken trust and establishing a foundation rooted in honesty and transparency within your relationship.

– Conflict Resolution: Gain strategies to navigate disagreements and conflicts healthily and productively, fostering mutual understanding and compromise.

– Enhanced Intimacy: Rediscover emotional and physical intimacy, reignite passion, and strengthen the connection between you and your partner.

– Individual Growth: Explore personal growth opportunities, understand your triggers and behaviours, and learn how they impact your relationship.

– Supportive Environment: Receive guidance and support from trained therapists in a safe, non-judgmental space where you can openly express your feelings and concerns.

– Tools for Long-Term Success: Acquire practical tools and techniques to sustain positive changes and cultivate a thriving and fulfilling relationship long after counselling.

What is the Process of Marriage Counselling?

Here’s a step-by-step outline of the general marriage counselling process: It can vary from couple to couple.

  1. Initial Assessment
  • Introduction: The therapist meets with both partners to understand the relationship dynamics and issues.
  • Background Information: Each partner may be asked to provide their personal history and the history of the relationship.
  • Goals Setting: The couple and the therapist collaboratively set goals for the therapy sessions.
  1. Identifying Issues
  • Communication Problems: Identifying and addressing poor communication patterns.
  • Conflict Resolution: Understanding how conflicts are currently handled and developing healthier strategies.
  • Individual Issues: Recognising the personal issues of each partner that affect their relationship.
  1. Therapeutic Interventions
  • Building Communication Skills: Teaching effective communication techniques to help partners express themselves clearly and listen actively.
  • Problem-Solving Skills: Developing strategies to resolve conflicts constructively.
  • Emotional Understanding: Helping partners understand and manage their emotions better.
  • Rebuilding Trust: Specific interventions to rebuild trust may be implemented for couples dealing with trust issues.
  1. Homework and Practice
  • Assignments: Couples are often given exercises to practice outside sessions to reinforce what is learned during therapy.
  • Tracking Progress: Keeping a journal or log of interactions and feelings to discuss in future sessions.
  1. Monitoring Progress
  • Regular Check-ins: The therapist reviews the couple’s progress towards their goals.
  • Adjustments: Adapting the therapy plan based on what is or is not working.
  1. Closure and Follow-Up
  • Reviewing Achievements: Summarising the progress made and the skills learned.
  • Maintenance Plan: Develop a plan to maintain improvements and address future issues.
  • Follow-Up Sessions: Scheduling follow-up sessions if needed to ensure the relationship remains on track.
What are the different types of therapies for Marriage Counselling?

Marriage counselling can employ various therapeutic approaches with unique techniques and philosophies. Here’s an overview of some popular methods used at Insightful Counselling, Singapore.


1. Gottman Method

The Gottman Method is based on Drs. John and Julie Gottman’s extensive research on couples. This approach focuses on:

– Building Love Maps: Encouraging partners to know each other’s world.

– Turning Towards Instead of Away: Strengthening emotional connection by responding to bids for attention.

– Managing Conflict: Understanding the difference between solvable and perpetual problems and developing healthy conflict resolution skills.

– Creating Shared Meaning: Building a sense of shared purpose and values.

The Gottman Method emphasises the importance of friendship, fondness, and admiration in a relationship, along with effective communication and conflict management techniques.


 2. Transactional Analysis (TA)

Social interactions (or “transactions”) are analysed in Transactional Analysis to determine the ego state of the communicator towards their partners, for example – (Parent-like, Child-like, or Adult-like). In marriage counselling, TA focuses on:

-Relationship Analysis: It is a valuable exercise that helps couples become aware of the ego states they use with each other.

– Ego States: Understanding how different ego states affect communication and behaviour.

– Transactions: Analysing interactions to identify and change dysfunctional patterns.

– Scripts: Exploring life scripts developed in childhood that influence behaviour and relationships.

TA helps couples understand and change their communication patterns and address underlying psychological issues affecting their relationship.


 3. Talk Therapy

Talk therapy explores the underlying psychological roots of relationship issues. It involves:

Exploring Past Experiences: Understanding how past relationships and experiences influence current behaviour and emotions.

– Insight-Oriented: Gaining insights into unconscious processes affecting the relationship.

Emotionally Focused: Addressing deep-seated emotional issues and patterns.

This approach helps couples uncover and work through unresolved issues from their past that may be impacting their relationship.


 4. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

An essential component of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is the identification and modification of negative thoughts and behaviours. In marriage counselling, CBT involves:

Identifying Cognitive Distortions: Recognising and challenging negative thoughts about the relationship.

Behavioural Interventions: Encouraging positive behaviours and interactions.

– Skill Building: Developing effective communication, problem-solving, and conflict-resolution skills.

CBT helps couples reframe negative thoughts and develop healthier, more constructive interaction patterns.


Couples may benefit from one or a combination of these therapies, depending on their specific needs and the nature of their relationship challenges.

How Does Insightful Counselling Work?

Insightful Counselling is based out of Singapore. It offers face to face as well as online sessions. We help by facilitating discussions with you and your partner, and bring to light issues that need to be tackled. We will ensure your comfort with airing out your issues and establishing a common ground by providing a safe environment, which is non-judgemental and gives a listening ear to both the spouses equally.

Do You Provide Face to Face or Online Marriage Counselling?

Yes. We offer both face-to-face counselling at our center and online counselling via Zoom. Once you’ve scheduled a session with us, we’ll coordinate and provide you with secure Zoom login information.

Why Choose Insightful?

At Insightful Counselling, our team comprises highly qualified therapists holding Masters’s degrees in Counselling from esteemed universities in Australia and Singapore. With their wealth of experience, they excel in identifying and addressing the root causes of relationship challenges, guiding you toward resolution. Here’s why you should choose us:

Reignite the Flame in your Relationship

The effectiveness of Marriage counselling hinges on the dedication and effort invested by both partners. With a willingness to work together and enact positive changes, marriage counselling offers a promising path to reclaiming your relationship.

Marriage Counsellor In Singapore - Insightful Counselling

Meet Our Marriage Counseling Experts

Reena Goenka

Reena Goenka, MSc (Counselling), SAC Master Clinical Member: With over 15 years of experience, Reena specialises in using Transactional Analysis to enhance self-awareness and understand relationship dynamics in premarital counselling. Her approach helps couples explore and improve their communication and connection before and after marriage.

Adeeti Jain

Adeeti Jain - Counsellor at Insightful Counselling Singapore

Adeeti Jain, MSc (Counselling), SAC Associate Member:

Adeeti brings a wealth of knowledge and experience. She utilises the Gottman Method for premarital counselling and excels at helping couples understand and manage emotional and behavioural challenges.

Yap Huay Khem

Huay Khem - Counsellor at Insightful Counselling SingaporeYap Huay Khem, MSc (Counseling), SAC Registered Clinical Counsellor
Known for her calm and nonjudgmental demeanour, Yap Huay Khem uses Transactional Analysis to help couples explore and improve their relationship dynamics, fostering a safe and open environment.

Lily Ng

Lily Ng, MSc (Counselling), SAC Associate Member: Lily provides a supportive and nurturing environment for couples, using Transactional Analysis to help them build resilience and develop healthy coping strategies while understanding relationship issues.

Frequently Asked Questions

Frequently Asked Questions

How does Marriage Counselling work?

Marriage counseling typically involves both partners, but sometimes one partner may choose to work with a therapist alone. The process includes gathering information about the relationship’s history, identifying the current issues, and then working through those issues by improving communication, understanding each other’s perspectives, and negotiating differences.

How long does Marriage Counselling take?

The duration of marriage counseling varies depending on the couple’s specific issues and their willingness to participate in the process. It can range from a few sessions to several months. On average, couples might attend weekly sessions for 3 to 6 months.

What are the success rates of Marriage Counseling?

Success rates can vary widely depending on factors such as the couple’s motivation, the severity of their issues, and the skill of the therapist. However, many couples do report improvement in their relationship satisfaction and communication skills as a result of counseling.

Is Marriage Counselling confidential?

Yes, marriage counseling is confidential. Therapists are bound by ethics and law not to disclose information about their clients without consent. However, there are exceptions, such as when there’s a threat of harm to oneself or others.

Remember, marriage counselling is a proactive step toward growth and understanding. It’s an opportunity to strengthen your partnership and create a healthier, more fulfilling relationship. 

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My sessions with Huay Khem have been impactful in so many ways. Every session arms me with new knowledge to grasp and practices to apply that help to improve my well-being and relationships with others. Huay Khem is immensely nurturing and often goes the extra mile to ensure my partner and I are healthy and coping well. She also delivers truthful insights in a compassionate way and offer practical solutions and practices for challenging situations. I’ve learned so much about myself and my relationship throughout my sessions with her. Thank you for your tireless efforts, Huay Khem!

Adeeti Jain is friendly and approachable counsellor. With her excellent communication and analytical skills, she is able to reach out and analyse her clients emotional needs. She has helped few friends and they all speak highly of her knowledge and as well as her counselling skills. As a friend and as a mentor she is ready to reach out eagerly.

. I recently joined the group supervision with Insightful Counselling. It was a really useful session for me, I learnt a lot from my group and our supervisor was very skilful in guiding the group to discovering new ways to explore issues with our clients. Overall, a very good experience with Reena Goenka.

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