Raising a child is the prettiest yet challenging, making parenting a white-knuckle ride. As a parent, you need to understand your child’s emotional needs, developmental needs, physical needs, and other needs.
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What Is Counselling For Parents?
“I will not repeat the same mistakes as my parents.”
How many of us have said this statement and still gone ahead and made the same mistake?
Well, unlike our jobs, most of the time we are not taught about parenting in any school. It’s a hands-on job where we may make mistakes as parents. No Parent is perfect; however, we can learn skills that can help us be better parents to our children most of the time. It helps us to have realistic expectations and face our challenges as parents with confidence.
Counselling for parents can assist you in learning these very skills. Counselling helps you with their positive growth and development. During your sessions, you will equip yourself with raising your children with resilience and empowered self-esteem.
Seeking counselling at any stage of being a Parent can be beneficial. You will learn different ways of communicating with your children, depending on their developmental needs. For example, you can start when you are soon-to-be parents. Or when your child is a toddler or a teenager. A counsellor’s goal is to guide you with your needs as a parent. Usually, you may want to learn healthy ways to bless your child with a better childhood to enhance their growth and development. Parenting sessions help your skills as a parent to ensure your child grows into a mature, confident, sensitive, healthy adult ready to face the realities of life with resilience.
Parenting isn’t something that comes naturally to everyone, for some its hard to understand the child’s psychology and sometimes it gets frustrating and overwhelming to deal with your children’s demands. The truth is, just having a child and parenting a child are two different things, and the difference between them needs to be made clear.
During parenting counselling sessions, you will learn to nurture your children in ways that reduce the conflicts with themselves and with others. You will explore many different ways to meet your child’s mental, physical, psychological and emotional needs. During sessions, with individual self-awareness, parents tend to make changes to themselves.
Therapy makes parenting more straightforward and smoother. It helps get tips to bond with your children. Children are like the seeds that will grow based on the nutrients they receive. Nutrients that help children grow are nurturance, touch, communication, building self-esteem, and building positive self-beliefs. Parenting sessions will equip you with the skills to impart these nutrients to your children.
Why Do Parents Need Therapy?
As mentioned above, parenting can be challenging, and it can sometimes worsen your relationships with your children. Parenting can sometimes complicate the relationship status of your entire family. Hence it becomes imperative to work on your parenting skills, to enjoy being parents, have fun with your children and bond with them for life.
When combined with a lack of sleep and poor lifestyle choices, tension, stress, and strain can lead to various parenting issues. Hence it may be something you should seek professional help.
Every family has its unique issues resulting in a parent-child conflict. The problems may be financial, marital, work stress, husband-wife conflicts, career issues and much more. Many concerns can bring stress, anxiety, fear, and depression within us. They impact our parenting styles. Parenting counselling can help to resolve problems for you to journey with your child as a confident parent.
What Are The Basic Features Of Parenting Therapy?
Parenting includes four basic styles of raising children that determine the consequences of parenting and the effects on the children. Each parent can have a mix of each parenting style.
Let’s get a brief understanding of parenting styles, and you can check where you belong in the below-mentioned category/ categories.
Authoritarian parents are the ones who keep their children in strict vigilance and often disciplined atmosphere. They use their uncompromising disciplinary style, usually one-sided and ignorant towards the child’s needs. Punishment is the standard tool they use, accompanied by one-way communication from parent to child. Rules are generally never explained and are just to be followed strictly without questioning. The typical nature of this kind of parenting is of less nurturing, but high expecting. This parenting style is useful when we need to establish essential boundaries for things that cannot be questioned—for example, not playing with fire.
This type of parenting is the total opposite of the authoritarian style of parenting. Permissive parents are okay with whatever their children do, and award them with whatever they want, but with significantly less approach towards guidance or directing their children. They are more like friends than parents. Mostly, they have no rules and mostly let children figure out issues on their own. Communication is open, and children are free to decide for themselves rather than obeying any direction. Permissive parenting can lead to children growing without boundaries. However, this parenting style helps build positive beliefs about self and others. Anything in excess is not good; this is true for permissive parenting too.
There is a lot of freedom in this parenting style, with parents usually staying out of the children’s way. There is no particular discipline and parents let their children do whatever they want, and do not even care about what their children are doing. Communication is limited with no or limited nurturance and fewer expectations from children.
Authoritative parenting style is an excellent mix of allowing children their freedom to make choices but at the same time offering safety to children by establishing boundaries. Disciplinary rules are clear and well explained to the child. There is consistency in parenting.
How Can Parenting Sessions Help?
As seen from the above four types of parenting styles, every style may have a different impact on the child’s mental, emotional, physical and psychological upbringing. Counselling sessions will enable you to gauge your parenting styles and make changes where you desire. WebMd also states you may incorporate new parenting styles, letting go of an old-style or creating a combination that suits your needs.
Of course, children are influenced by more than just parenting. Other factors that make a child’s personality include genetics, external environments like schools, friends, and personality disposition. However, parenting plays a significant role in deciding a child’s overall development.
As-is rightly said good parenting leads to a happy family and a peaceful place to live. Parenting is not an easy job at all. Learning parenting skills helps to manage this job by coping better with everyday stress, anxiety and fear. It enhances our moments of happiness and joy.
Reena Goenka is a SAC Registered Counsellor & Supervisor. She is a caring Mother, an understanding counsellor, a healing therapist, a whiz consultant, an expert trainer and a brilliant writer, holding expertise in Psychotherapy treatments, Professional counselling and Clinical supervision.
Reena Goenka has experienced phenomenal client success by employing a unique combination of Transactional Analysis, Gestalt two-chair work, hypnotherapy, visualization, EMDR and talk therapy. Reena helps her clients to understand their distinct core issues and pursue paths of healing. At the same time, she also supervises other counsellors or therapist in this process as well.
Reena works with a variety of concerns. Her Areas of Specialization include:
- Empowering self through Transactional Analysis
- Working with Trauma, abusive, or bad memories
- Working with Childhood hurts and abuses
- Parenting Issues like Conflict management with children and teenagers.
- Marital counselling.
- Pain Management
- Stress management.
- Positive empowerment.